My Father, the Reminder

Written
1991

 The hearty laugh of my dead aunt

       rings in my granddaughter's ears.

My grandfather strikes

     the hot iron

     and my son hears the ring.

Young cousins are bridged

      to long ago family feasts.

Each entry in the

       family Bible becomes real.

Former neighbors,

    long gone,

     are in our conversations.

The tradition of talk

      to the past is done.

Together the family bridges

      the grave gap.

Family traits are seen

      in the grandchildren

      who will forever know

      the tie to those who have passed.

All this and more

      is my father reminding us

      that the dead are with us

      as long as we remember.

He is a special reminder

      with so much to remember.

He can see his father's amazement

      at the first cars

      and airplanes.

He can remember the person

      represented by each tombstone.

No plastic flowers for this one.

A special toast on Saint Patrick's Day

      for that one.

Scandal long ago shed,

      each character cleansed by time.

The rememberer stands

      guard against time.

Who will remember

      when he is gone?

My aunt's laugh

      is now my grandaughter's responsibility.

The sound of the forge

      will long be a part of my son.

But I am the oldest

    and have the responsibility

    to keep the dead remembered and ageless.

    I have to take my father's place.

    I must keep his traditions.

I must serve the past

    to make those gone

    sit at my table.

Just as my father before me.

Time passes so fast

     even for the dead.   

 

Notes
This was written when my father was still alive and spent the time to tell me stories of the people under the tombstones we walked through in the Masonic cemetery. He had a wonderful memory and was a fine story teller.